During my recovery, I’ve periodically lapsed into sponsoring myself. If I were the only addict who had ever done this, it would be humiliating, but not worthy of writing an article for The NA Way. However, it seems this resistance to allowing others to help us is common among addicts. So, if you answer “yes” to any of the following questions, then maybe you, too, have some experience with self-sponsorship:
1. When you were new, did you resist getting a sponsor, because you didn’t want anyone telling you what to do?
2. Was your first sponsor a “temporary” sponsor, because you feared making long-term commitments?
3. Have you asked someone to sponsor you, and then not called for days, weeks, or months because you didn’t know what to say?
4. Do you not call your sponsor because he or she appears to be busy or tired?
5. Have you changed sponsors three or more times because you didn’t like their feedback?
6. Do you avoid calling because you don’t want to hear what your sponsor will say?
7. Do you ever feel grateful that you got your sponsor’s answering machine?
8. Have you lied to your sponsor?
9. Have you taken service positions without talking to your sponsor first, and then felt overwhelmed by the demands of the positions? Did you ever quit a service position without talking to your sponsor first?
10. Have you ever really needed to talk to your sponsor, but when you called,
April 15, 2014
Keep coming back
|"We have come to enjoy living clean and want more of the good things that the NA Fellowship holds for us."
|Basic Text, p. 27
|Can you remember a time when you looked at the addicts recovering in NA and wondered, "If they aren't using drugs, what on earth do they have to laugh about?" Did you believe that the fun stopped when the using stopped? So many of us did; we were certain that we were leaving the "good life" behind. Today, many of us can laugh at that misconception because we know how full our life in recovery can be.
Many of the things we enjoy so much in recovery are gained by actively participating in the Fellowship of NA. We begin to find true companionship, friends who understand and care about us just for ourselves. We find a place where we can be useful to others. There are recovery meetings, service activities, and fellowship gatherings to fill our time and occupy our interests. The fellowship can be a mirror to reflect back to us a more accurate image of who we are. We find teachers, helpers, friends, love, care, and support. The fellowship always has more to offer us, as long as we keep coming back.
|Just for Today: I know where the "good life" is. I'll keep coming back.
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